In this article, we will be discussing tips to balance marriage and motherhood, the long-term success of a marriage depends heavily on how well spouses make the adjustment during the first five years and it’s most likely for couples to have one or more baby/babies during this vital phase in their marriage.
Having a baby is a thing of joy but its one of the biggest tests your marriage will face.
It amazing how much effort people put into planning for a baby on a practical level, but the couple does not often consider how much their relationship will change with the arrival of a baby in their home. Dear new Parent, there is a need to prepare for the lack of time, sleep and the hormonal chemistry of new parenthood.
Here are useful tips to balance marriage and motherhood:
- Seek for support
If you’re pregnant, start preparing now to have a support person, such as stay in/day Nanny, house cleaner or domestic staff to assist in the workloads at home. The support person can do so many things to reduce the stress of the newborn baby without much burden on your partner. If you are planning to have support from family members, ensure your marriage stressful while with you.
- Expect a change in your sex life
It is a fact that women and men are not wired the same way even in sexual feelings, a new mom can be totally consumed with baby care all day (and night) and might want to cuddle and feel nurtured without it ending in sex, or she may simply feel ‘ all touched out’ after giving so much of her body to the baby. Conversely, the man’s way of feeling close is to have sex. As this is where things can break down, communication and understanding are important to intimacy. Men are to get change approach to sex by lending help with baby care – settling, rocking, or cooking and cleaning up so the New mother will have time to share ‘the love’ without feeling stressed about all the things that needed to be done, Men should think of ‘doing dishes’ as foreplay!
- Allowed yourself to have those postpartum feelings
Mood changing thing is the common experience to mothers when nursing babies. Childbirth can sometimes colour your relationship with your partner and how you feel about intimacy. Discuss with your partner about it, both of you should be diagnosed it and address causes and if there need seek professional help.
- Embrace your ‘new’ body
As a new mom your body is going through a new life stage on producing a baby, so give yourself time to get used to your post-baby figure without expecting to spring back like a supermodel. Body image can greatly affect how ‘sexy’ a woman feels after having a baby.
- Create a date night
While caring for your baby might be all-consuming, it’s important to nurture your relationship by balance marriage and motherhood, by giving it quality time. If you want ‘together time’ you may have to plan ahead – mark a ‘date night’ on the calendar even if this means watching favorite video together etc .you don’t only have to make love in bed at night-time.” having children early in marriage may not give you opportunity to have quantity time , ensure you have quality time.
- Ask for help
This is not a repetition but it’s what you must consider and if you can not find suitable paid support service please don’t be afraid to ask close friends and family for help because this will sure help you balance marriage and motherhood and Also It will help you to have more time for yourself, spouse and other activities you love doing.
- Plan financially ahead
Statistically, money has been discovered as the greatest source of arguments for all couples and planning ahead by saving some money for this purpose before you have your baby will reduce the tension money can bring into your marriage. Preparation is key to balance marriage and motherhood.
- Create some me-time
If you feel all worn out from giving all day, you can’t expect to feel excited about your marriage: you need to keep loving yourself in little ways so that you have good energy and loving feelings for your partner. Your ‘me time’ can be time to attend to your physical appearance or doing something you love doing. “It’s important to find ‘me’ time as well as couple time.
Babies are blessing from God and not a burden to your marriage; let’s make proper preparation before they arrive financially, emotionally and you will be able to balance marriage and motherhood.
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